This and That

I have been blog MIA for the last little bit, and the real life peeps who read this are not letting me forget it!

So here it is, a life update:

Dating… well I am not but at the same time I have been on about 3 or so dates this month and of course 3 or so different men. Some new, some not. Again, I am not dating, just to make this clear. I am not actively out there in the trenches, but some things cannot be avoided.
My first date, as sweet as it was, was with a guy I had dated Feb to April. We ‘reconnected’ but it turned out the man had a girlfriend the whole time. That explains his less than perfect ‘attendance’ record. I found out via Facebook like a high school kid. I never add men to FB or try to dig up things on them. From now on I am full blown investigator! I don’t want an innocent face to fool me again. How does it go: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.

The second date is with this guy that is scared to make any moves. So I just enjoy watching him struggle. In my opinion, if you want something you should go and get it. Don’t have the guts to do it, ha! I will have fun with it. And I also saved $50 on a cab back from the airport, because he picked me up. I know, I am bad. But $50!

And that’s all I am saying on the dating front.


My road trip to NYC is now booked! My coworker is moving there to get her MBA at Columbia and the two of us are driving her and her worldly possessions to the City that Never Sleeps. I scored my return ticket for $110 USD from Delta, which with the favourable exchange rate is even cheaper! The rental car on the way there is $150. We are staying at her new digs, so it will be free! It’s going to be a phenomenal and super cheap trip.

I am super excited that after a crazy IKEA midnight sale experience, I scored the dresser I wanted for $89 original price $299!!! I am beyond excited for this. It comes out of my $80/month spend on whatever budget! Now I have to figure out a way to get the boxes up to my place and then put it together. Eeek!

In work news, I got a surprise raise and was told that in my level I rank in the top 10%! That's pretty major! I didn't expect it at all and it made me feel pretty smug!

Weekly Check in Sun June 12 - Thurs June 16

I am starting on the Sunday since I did not come back from vacation until Saturday night. My spending on vacation was previously budgeted for.

Sun June 12
$57 Grocery


Mon June 13
No money day!

Tues June 14
$10 Dinner
$40 Pedicure (instead of a flower I have packman like thing puking sparkles, don't want to talk about it)
Total $50

Wed June 15
$60 Gas+lottery ticket
$12 Lunch
$25 Grocery
Total $97

Thurs June 16
$10 contribution to baby shower gift for coworker
$5 Lunch
Total $15

Weekly Total $219

I thought that I would be under budget this week, this is why writing everything down comes in handy.

I had to put close to $1K on my credit card for professional dues this week, it should be reimbursed to me by my company. Hoping it will be pretty soon!

I have decided to start using my PC Mastercard for purchases going forward. The deal with myself is that I will pay it off weekly. I created an on-line account and can keep track of it. It used to be that if it went on my Cr Card I forgot it happened. Now it will be tracked and I will take advantage of the points! If I do not follow my rules I will stop using it.

Goal Keeper Updates!

I love it when it is mid month and I get to update my progress! Mid month pay cheque is all about bill payment and savings!

+720 Side Income
+250 Savings for School
+93 Emergency fund
+185 Travel fund

I found an extra $185 in my account left over from the last 2 weeks since I was away traveling and so it moves to the newly created Travel fund! There is a possibility that I will be going to NYC or LA or both in 2 months and I have to really try to find some extra cash for that. Both are really cheap opportunities to travel and I really want to take advantage of them.

As a side note my last Bell Canada bill came in and they are charging me for service I didn't have plus installations that didn't happen. I will have to spend hours on the phone with them today ;(

Hello from Europe!

I forgot to mention that I will be in Europe for the next week and a half. I am actually here, sitting the kitchen I grew up in, working away in the exact place I ate every meal for years!
I saw my little brother get married today.
I wish him love and happiness!

I am also extremely jet lagged, even though I can hardly keep my eyes open, I cannot sleep. I get jet lagged like this when I come home from Europe, but not the opposite as it is happening now.

I hope tonight I am able to sleep, since I am keeping myself awake as much as possible.

Goodbye for now and will posts updates when I get home!

I like everything about me!

This kid has the right idea, 3 cheers for daily affirmations and feeling good about your own life!

Weekly Check in Fri May 20 - Thurs May 26

Fri May 20
$15 Lunch
$9 Pasta sale at work
$45 Hair colour
Total $69

Sat May 21
$24 Drug Store (purchase was $34 but I cashed in $10 of points) bought bronzer lotions
$25 Night out
$28 Credit card purchase from Night out... I bought two rounds of drinks for my friend and I. Very odd behavior on my part since I never use my cr card at a club.
Total $77

Sun May 22
$47.65
$26
Total $74

Mon May 23
Money Free Day!

Tues May 24

Money Free Day!

Wed May 25
70 Spa
$30 Dinner Date - He paid for the driving range, I insisted on paying for the drinks and nachos
Total $100


Thurs May 26

Money Free Day!

Weekly Total $320
I also made an extra $40 this week designing and making my coworker's wedding earrings and necklace.

Again I have to say the best thing to do is to write all purchases down. I was sure I had a cheap week, but then I forgot my beutification treatments oooops!

I joined Match.com and ended up with a disappointed heart

Oh how I jinxed myself with this Post

I finally thought I was about to meet THE ONE and then I thought I did.
But in fact, I did not.

The one will be able to get through my hard outer shell and be actually willing to crack the 'hard nut' that I am.
Yes I have walls and yes I don't wear my emotions on my sleeve. That's who I am and it took me a long time to understand myself and thus it will take you longer than ONE date to figure me out. I am not someone with a few easy breezy layers, the woman I am runs deep and with every layer you get through you will realize there are 10 more and 11 after that.

So now, I am planning a dating detox.

Yes, as my friends have pointed out, yes I do say this all the time. But now it is real. I am not interested in looking, talking or engaging in any other activity with members of the opposite sex. (my male friends are of course not included in this as they are not part of the 'male' population to me, they are just wonderful souls). I am done.

In the past 3 years that I have been 'single', I have always been either talking, meeting, knowing, about to meet, about to talk to and looking for men. And even if I have had a day or two of no such activity, that is when it is most likely that something will jump into my life. And likely it won't be one something but at least three somethings.

So now my friends, I will not walk into a room and immediately scan it for prospects, I will dance on a dance floor without seeing the men staring at me calculating their next move, I will not check my phone like a maniac and most importantly I will give myself peace.

And don't say, things happen when you least expect them, because my friends I have been least expecting to find love for a long time!


as a side note, I have lots of material for my 'book' based on this last experience!